My son spent most of his time playing with his frends since he entered high school last year. He seldom study for his test or exam, sometimes didn't do his homework. He used to be a very good student. He is smart and shy. He's born in northeastern US. I have adjusted the summer time in the following chart. I never expect a lot from him, now only worry that he learns bad. Can anyone tell me what's wrong in his chart and what's his favorest God. I am sorry that i can't type in Chinese. I would greatly appreciate your response.

國曆：  79 年潤  7 月  3 日   卯 時生                     性別：          男 性 
農曆：  79 年    5 月 11 日   卯 時生                     虛歲：          16 歲 
                                                                                
八字：     時          日          月          年         大運：  2  ~ 11  癸未 
           柱          柱          柱          柱                 12 ~ 21  甲申 
           ：          ：          ：          ：                 22 ~ 31  乙酉 
           偏                      正          傷                 32 ~ 41  丙戌 
           印                      財          官                 42 ~ 51  丁亥 
           丁          己          壬          庚                 52 ~ 61  戊子 
           卯          巳          午          午                 62 ~ 71  己丑 
             乙      庚戊丙        己丁        己丁               72 ~ 81  庚寅 
             七      傷劫正        比偏        比偏               82 ~ 91  辛卯 
             殺      官財印        肩印        肩印                             
                                                                                
大運：     82      72      62      52      42      32      22      12       2   
           食      傷      比      劫      偏      正      七      正      偏   
           神      官      肩      財      印      印      殺      官      財   
           辛      庚      己      戊      丁      丙      乙      甲      癸   
           卯      寅      丑      子      亥      戌      酉      申      未   
             乙  戊丙甲  辛癸己      癸    甲壬  丁辛戊      辛  戊壬庚  乙丁己 
             七  劫正正  食偏比      偏    正正  偏食劫      食  劫正傷  七偏比 
             殺  財印官  神財肩      財    官財  印神財      神  財財官  殺印肩

If he was born in summer of N. US, his time should be back(ward) to 1 hour.
May I know his original birth time?

身強印旺,喜才壞印.
甲申運,甲己化比劫.
所以,會比較注重朋友

Most of time I will say nothing wrong with a young person since a teenager born in the US without his mother nation's background. Since the struggling with a youth to be forced with culture differences, a traditional education may not be used for a person who wished to be independent in western culture. May be he lost his interesting on studies because he has his talents on other skills. Studies are not the only targets for a person who may have other interests. I wish you could talk more with your son about his friends with cares. Talking studies less, and talks friends more. He will know that you care about him as well as his future. He may respect the cross-nation culture between US and here, since his mom and dad talk to him. Try to avoid to commit other ill behaviors not belong to him, he is still a good boy.

出生地,與現居地,有無不同.有沒有跨到不同時區???

thank you for your response. i have backward 1 hour in his chart.

thank you for your response
he was born and grow up in the same place.

thank you for your advice.
i know there are culture difference and generation gap between my son and me. while most chinese parents would like their children study hard for their future, the children emphasize more on personal interest (freedom). youth got higher scores in computer games and sports would get more respects from peer (peer pressure). I have tried not to talk too often about study thinking he may feel annoied. so far he is till fine in his study, still can manage to make average in scores (top scores in maths), but he is doing worse and worse. He is too popular, has too many friends including some aggressive girls. some of his friends seem wild. i can't tell him you cannot play with who and who. i tried to ask like 'Tom and John seem wild, why his parents allow him to hang-out everywhere until midnight'.
what i do now is try to keep him home, i even allow him to play games for hours a day, if he went out, try to find out where he was.
I don't know how many more years the struggle between my son and me would continue.

thank you for your response. can you tell me there is any indication in his chart that he has bad friends or he will be fine in a few years.

His favor factor may be "water".

From his chart, you love him and control him too much.
I think he has this problem from age 12.
He wants to do anything different because "metal" is out of "zhi" and it is appeared.
You may focus on his literary talent, artistic talent or any talent and spend the time to talk with him (maybe he won't listen) during the time.
You can also train him to be independent during the time.
He may also have good "chances" to find out his coming wife during age 22-31.



This is just my opinion. just reference.

you are right. he start not doing his homework sometimes a few years ago, but he was in a private catholic school at that time, his teachers were nice to him and all his friends behaved well. i will try to be more reasonable when struggling with him. thank you for your advice.